Me and Sean, summer of 2010.
(The love of my life)
Have you ever read an article or watched a video on relationships, marriage, or someone else's perspective about how to approach your significant other when it comes to your wants and needs?
And then after you read it or watch it you are instantly angry?
I watched a video about how women should let their significant other know about their needs without being a constant nag or drip, drip, drip....
This person said that there are two different kinds of women, the quiet ones that keep everything inside and never tell their significant other what they need or want, and the out-spoken ones that constantly nag or drip.
The longer I watched this video the madder I got.
A relationship is not based around only women.....DUH LADY!!
A good strong relationship has to work both ways.
Sean and I's relationship is based on communication and listening from the heart, not the ears.
In the video, the lady gave an example of how she had to get her needs across to her husband about not being late for dinner.
"Dear husband, you absolutely cannot be late for dinner, and you have to be home at the exact same time every day. I am watching the clock."
Obviously this lady has never worked a day in her life. She has no understanding of the relationship between hours of the day and work. How can you demand someone to be home at exactly the same time every day? Now that is what I call a nag.....
Sean doesn't have to shower me with gifts to keep me quiet, or keep me happy, but the little things he does for me shows me that he has been listening with his heart. I do the same thing with him. I listen to his likes, needs, and wants with my heart.... I absorb them and keep them tucked away for safe keeping. Only to use them as a surprise in the future.
The necklace in the above picture.... I am not a jewelry person, but when I walked by the jewelry display case and seen this necklace, It said, "Hello, I love you!". It made me say "WOW!".
When I got home, I was still touched by the beauty of the necklace. When I am touched by something I go into extreme detail describing it. I use passion and OOOOO's and AHHHH's.
Sean heard me. One week later, I am the owner of that beautiful necklace.
The deviled egg plate.... I fell in love with the plate at a local antique store. I carried it around with me the whole time I was there with every intention of buying it. Being unemployed, I have a hard time spending my money on my WANTS. The money that I do have should be placed toward the family. I described the plate to Sean with love, interest, and passion.
Sean heard me. Three days later Sean is placing that plate in my hands.
Sean and I have a great relationship because we listen with our hearts. I can never come close to what Sean does for me, but I do listen, even if it is providing Sean with his favorite foods or candy. The simple things in a relationship matter. The simple things let your significant other know that you care, you listen, and you hear with your heart.
Go and find a simple thing for your wife, husband, significant other, or love of your life and let them know that you listen with your heart, not your ears..... "I have been thinking about you today."
"Give, and it will be given to you. A good amount will be poured into your lap. It will be pressed down, shaken together, and running over. The same amount you give will be measured out to you." Luke 6: 38